ENM Resources
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Research

• Conley, T. D., Matsick, J., Moors, A. C., & Ziegler, A. (2017). The Investigation of consensually non-monogamous relationships: Theories, methods and new directions. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 12(2), 205-232.

• Conley, T. D., Moors, A. C., Ziegler, A., & Karathanasis, C. (2012). Unfaithful individuals are less likely to practice safer sex than openly nonmonogamous individuals. Journal of Sexual Medicine, 9(6), 1559-1565.

• Kimberly, C., & Hans, J. D. (2017). From fantasy to reality: A grounded theory of experiences in the swinging lifestyle. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 46(3), 789-799.

• Haupert, M. L., Gesselman, A. N., Moors, A. C., Fisher, H. E., & Garcia, J. R. (2017). Prevalence of experiences with consensual nonmonogamous relationships: Findings from two national samples of single americans. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 43(5), 424-440.

• Fairbrother, N., Hart, T. A., & Fairbrother, M. (2019). Open relationship prevalence, characteristics, and correlates in a nationally representative sample of canadian adults. Journal of Sex Research, 56(6), 695-704.

• Lehmiller, J. J. (2015). A comparison of sexual health history and practices among monogamous and consensually nonmonogamous sexual partners. Journal of Sexual Medicine, 12(10), 2022-2028.

• Moors, A. C. (2019). Moving past the rose-tinted lens of monogamy: Onward with critical self-examination and (sexually) healthy science. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 48(1), 57-61.

• Moors, A. C., Matsick, J., & Schechinger, H. (2017). Unique and shared relationship benefits of consensually non-monogamous and monogamous relationships: A review and insights for moving forward. European Psychologist, 22(1), 55-71. 

• Moors, A. C., Matsick, J. L., Ziegler, A., Rubin, J., & Conley, T.D. (2013). Stigma toward individuals engaged in consensual non-monogamy: Robust and worthy of additional research. Analyses of

• Social Issues and Public Policy, 13(1), 52-69. Ritchie, A., & Barker, M. (2006). ‘There aren’t words for what we do or how we feel so we have to make them up’: Constructing polyamorous languages in a culture of compulsory monogamy. Sexualities, 9(5), 584-601.

• Tatum, A. K., Flicker, S. M., Peralta, I., & Kubicki, R. J. (2024). Initial Motivations for Engaging in Polyamorous Relationships. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 53(2).
  This peer-reviewed study identifies four major themes motivating individuals to pursue polyamorous relationships: values alignment, relationship factors, external stimuli, and sexuality. Referenced in PsyPost article.

• Alarie, M., Bosom, M., & Côté, I. (2024). Children's views on the romantic partners of their polyamorous parents. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 41(9).
  The first peer-reviewed study to examine children's perspectives on their polyamorous parents' partners, finding generally positive relationships. Available through NCBI PMC.

• Authors undisclosed (2021). Defining Polyamory: A Thematic Analysis of Lay People's Definitions. Frontiers in Psychology. A qualitative analysis of how different populations define polyamory, comparing the perspectives of individuals practicing CNM and those who do not. Available at: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8321986/

• Rodrigues, D., Fasoli, F., Huic, A., & Lopes, D. (2018). Which partners are more human? Monogamy matters more than sexual orientation for dehumanization in three European countries. Sexuality Research and Social Policy, 15(4), 504-515. 

• Rubel, A. N., & Bogaert, A. F. (2015). Consensual nonmonogamy: Psychological well-being and relationship quality correlates. Journal of Sex Research, 52(9), 961-982.

• Schechinger, H., Sakaluk, J. K., & Moors, A. C. (2018). Harmful and helpful therapy practices with consensually non-monogamous clients: Toward an inclusive framework. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 86(11), 879-891.

• Sheff, E. (2015). Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families. Lanham, Maryland: Rowman & Littlefield. Vaughan, M. D., Jones, P., Taylor, B. A., & Roush, J. (2019).

• Healthcare experiences and needs of consensually non- monogamous people: Results from a focus group study. Journal of Sexual Medicine, 16(1), 42-51.
  
  Trauma and Non-Monogamy 

• Love Without Limits: The Therapeutic Power of Ketamine-Assisted Therapy for Non-Monogamous Relationships - Read Blog Here

 
Miscellaneous Resources

• Glossary of Terms: A helpful resource defining key terms related to non-monogamy. - Access Glossary

• CNM Fact Sheet: Provides an overview and important information about consensual non-monogamy. - Access Fact Sheet

• Research on Polyamory by Multiamory - Access Fact Sheet

• Non-Monogamy Research Roundup by Multiamory Podcast - Listen Here

• OPEN's 2024 Community Survey Provides Comprehensive Insights into Non-Monogamy - Access Report

• History of Polyamory Book - Access Book

• Inclusive Medical and Mental Healthcare for CNM Pamphlet: A resource for healthcare providers on how to be inclusive of CNM relationships. - Access Guide

• CNM Literature Database: A database of peer-reviewed articles relevant to consensual non-monogamy. - Access Database

• Kenneth R. Haslam Collection on Polyamory: Historic artifacts related to polyamory available for public viewing. - Access Database

• Fact Sheet about Ethical Non-Monogamy: An empirically informed fact sheet including recommendations for clinicians regarding CNM. - Access Fact Sheet

• Polyamorous: Living and Loving More: Reporter Jenny Yuen explores the rise of consensual nonmonogamy, highlighting legal and social movements for recognition. The book examines how these relationships are reshaping cultural views of love and commitment. Amazon Link

• Polyamory Journal: A Relationship Book: A guided journal with prompts, exercises, and activities to help individuals deepen self-awareness and navigate non-monogamy. It covers core themes like boundaries, jealousy, and self-security, making it useful for both newcomers and experienced practitioners. Amazon Link

• A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Daily Reflections for the Consensually Nonmonogamous: Evita “Lavitaloca” Sawyers offers daily prompts for self-reflection on themes like jealousy, compersion, and emotional healing. This devotional supports readers in building emotional resilience and deeper connections in non-monogamy. Amazon Link

• Beyond Monogamy: Polyamory and the Future of Polyqueer Sexualities: Mimi Schippers critiques compulsory monogamy and its ties to gender, race, and sexual inequality. The book highlights the queer, feminist, and anti-racist possibilities of non-dyadic relationships like polyamory and threesomes. Amazon Link

Getting Started in Non-Monogamy

Opening Up for the First Time

• Curious About Non-Monogamy? Start with Why - Read Blog Here

• What Style of Non-Monogamy is Right For You? - Read Blog Here

• Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships: Jessica Fern and David Cooley provide strategies for navigating the shift from monogamy to CNM. They address common challenges like jealousy, communication, and broken agreements while offering tools to deepen clarity and intimacy. Amazon Link

• Opening Up: Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships: Tristan Taormino draws on over 100 interviews to explore diverse styles of open relationships. The book offers practical tools for handling jealousy, boundaries, and time management with honesty and humor. Amazon Link

• Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory: A practical guide that empowers women to challenge monogamy’s limits and embrace alternative love. Through interviews, exercises, and real-world stories, it offers tools for self-awareness, healthy relationships, and confidence in non-traditional love. Amazon Link

• The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy: Lola Phoenix offers practical advice and emotional support for navigating CNM with self-compassion. Covering jealousy, boundaries, and mental health, this guide helps readers build confidence and resilience in non-monogamous relationships. Amazon Link

• The Ethical Slut: A classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond monogamy, centering open communication and honesty. The third edition adds fresh perspectives, interviews, and conflict resolution tools for building meaningful connections in diverse relationships. Amazon Link

• Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships: A thoughtful introduction to polyamory that balances clarity with humor. It tackles challenges like jealousy while empowering readers, monogamous or non-monogamous, to create deeper, more intentional connections. Amazon Link

• The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy: Irene Morning blends trauma-informed insights with personal experience to address the insecurities of CNM. With practical exercises, she offers tools to build confidence, secure intimacy, and healthier non-monogamous relationships. Amazon Link

• Open Deeply: Therapist Kate Loree offers an attachment-focused, neurobiologically informed framework for navigating CNM. Blending expertise with personal stories, she provides compassionate strategies to manage emotions and build healthy, connected relationships. Amazon Link

• A Happy Life in an Open Relationship: Therapist Susan Wenzel combines personal experience and clinical insight to guide readers through non-monogamy. With stories, exercises, and tools for trust, boundaries, and jealousy, she helps couples build healthy, fulfilling open relationships. Amazon Link

• The Myth of Monogamy: David Barash and Judith Eve Lipton use animal behavior and DNA research to show that infidelity is common across species. Their work challenges the idea of monogamy as “natural” and explores its impact on human relationships and social norms. Amazon Link

• Building Open Relationships: Psychologist Dr. Liz Powell offers a hands-on toolkit for navigating non-monogamy, blending expertise with lived experience. With worksheets, prompts, and real-life examples, the book helps readers start and sustain fulfilling open relationships. Amazon Link

• Eight Things I Wish I'd Known About Polyamory: Minx distills lessons from personal experience and thousands of podcast listeners into eight key insights. This guide offers clear, practical guidelines to help readers build confidence and clarity in navigating polyamory. Amazon Link

• Blog: Curious About Non-Monogamy? Start with Why  - Read Here

• The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy - Listen Here

• Polywise: A Conversation with Jessica Fern and Dave Cooley - Listen Here

• Blog: How to Start Talking to Your Partner About Non-Monogamy - Part 1  - Read Here

• Blog: How to Start Talking to Your Partner About Non-Monogamy - Part 2  - Read Here

• Workshop: Opening Up to Open Up: Explore non-monogamy in depth. This workshop is designed both for people with experience at non-monogamy, and anyone (such as newbies) wanting a thorough understanding of the concepts.
  Watch Here

Boundaries and Relationship Agreements

• The Basics of Boundaries - Listen Here

• Rules Vs. Agreements Featuring Boundaries Podcast Episode - Listen Here

• The Art of Boundaries Podcast Episode - Listen Here

• Relationship Agreement Pitfalls - Listen Here

• Boundaries are all about YOURself - Listen Here

• Relationship Agreements: Relationship coach Eri Kardos presents a clear, practical approach to creating and using agreements. With humor and warmth, she offers tools and reflections to help partners navigate tough conversations while deepening intimacy and connection. Amazon Link

• The Polyamory Workbook: An interactive guide with exercises, prompts, and interviews to support navigating CNM. It covers boundaries, consent, communication, and jealousy, helping readers build secure, joyful, and fulfilling relationships. Amazon Link

 
Communication

• Five Ways to Suck Less at Communication Podcast: Tips for improving communication in relationships. - Listen Here

• Courage for Hard Conversations Podcast: Approaching difficult discussions in relationships. - Listen Here

• Take the Fight Out of Your Fights Podcast: Resolving conflict healthily - Listen Here

Relationship Check-ins

• RADAR by Multiamory: A helpful method for check-ins in non-monogamous relationships. - Blog Article | Podcast Episode

• RADAR Trouble Shooting by Multiamory: This episode offers strategies for effective relationship check-ins using the RADAR formula, suitable for various relationship styles. - Podcast Episode

• Multiamory Book: A practical guide based on the Multiamory podcast, offering tools for healthier non-traditional relationships. It introduces techniques like the Triforce of Communication and RADAR check-ins to improve conversations and resolve conflict. Amazon Link

 
Scheduling

• Scheduling and Productivity Podcast: Tips for managing time in non-monogamous relationships. - Listen Here

• When Life Demands Get in the Way of Love Podcast: Maintaining connections when life gets busy. - Listen Here

• Why Your Relationship Needs a Date Night Podcast: Importance of regular dating with current partners. - Listen Here

 
Confidence

• Why It’s OK to Not Be Monogamous: Justin L. Clardy challenges the assumption that monogamy is the superior form of love. He argues that non-monogamous relationships can embody moral virtue and expand justice, intimacy, and equality. Book Link

Challenges & Growth Edges

Navigating Jealousy

• Deconstructing Jealousy - Listen Here

• 50 Ways to Handle Jealousy Part 1 - Listen Here

• 50 Ways to Handle Jealousy - Part 2 - Listen Here

• The Jealousy Survival Guide - Listen Here

• Unraveling Jealousy in 5 Steps - Listen Here

• The Science of Jealousy  - Listen Here

• My Partner Won't Admit They’re Jealous  - Listen Here

• Don’t Let Envy Ruin Your Relationship - Listen Here

• The Jealousy Workbook: Kathy Labriola offers practical exercises and strategies to help polyamorous people manage jealousy. With accessible tools drawn from her clinical work and community insights, it supports building skills for both prevention and crisis moments. Amazon Link

• Jealousy Survival Guide: Kitty Chambliss combines resources and personal experience to help readers navigate jealousy in CNM. The book offers practical tools, emotional awareness techniques, and a blame-free approach to tough conversations. Amazon Link

• The Jealousy Survival Guide Podcast: Discussion with Kitty Chambliss on navigating jealousy. - Listen Here

• What Is Compersion?: Dr. Marie Thouin explores compersion as a powerful alternative to jealousy in CNM. Drawing on real stories and social analysis, she offers a roadmap for cultivating empathy, diversity, and radical love in relationships. Book Link
  
  Attachment Styles and Polyamory

• Polysecure: Jessica Fern applies attachment theory to CNM, showing how to build secure bonds with multiple partners. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she offers six strategies to strengthen emotional security in complex relationships. Amazon Link

• Polysecure Workbook: A companion to Polysecure, this workbook offers exercises to explore attachment patterns and motivations for CNM. It helps readers build security, reflect on relational histories, and navigate multiple loving connections with confidence. Amazon Link

• Attachment Theory and Polyamory:  - Listen Here

• Multiple Attachment Styles for Multiple Partners - Listen Here

• Blog: Create a Secure Attachment with your Partner - Read Here

• Blog: Create a Secure Attachment with Yourself - Read Here
  
  

• Webinars: Webinars with Jessica Fern  - Watch Here

 
Transitioning Relationships and Breakups

• Trying Monogamy After Non-Monogamy - Listen Here

• Transitioning Relationships - Can you be friends with your ex? - Listen Here

• Grief, Breakups, and Hope for What Comes Next - Listen Here

• Heartbreak and Recovery - Listen Here

• Supporting a Partner through Loss - Listen Here

• How to Get Over Your Ex - Listen Here

• Polyamory Breakup Book: Kathy Labriola offers strategies to prevent and navigate breakups in polyamorous relationships. She shares community wisdom and practical tools for managing jealousy, time, and finances while preserving friendships and supporting the wider polycule.  Amazon Link

Hierarchy 

• What Hierarchy Means to Me - Listen Here

• Being Secondary While Putting Yourself First - Listen Here

• Is it Possible to Get Ahead of Couples Privilege? - Listen Here

• Ethical Unicorn Hunting - Listen Here

• Couples Privilege and the Ecology of Relationships - Read Here

 
Unicorn Hunting

• So, somebody called you a Unicorn Hunter? Read Blog Here

• Is Seeking a Third Ethical? Listen Here

• Ethical Unicorn Hunting Listen Here

• The Definitive Guide to Ethical Unicorn Hunting Read Here

 
Mono-Poly Dynamics

• Blog: I’m not poly but my bf is: navigating polyamory, big feelings & cultural expectations

Read Here

• The Mono-Poly Paradox
  Listen Here

• Mono-Poly World: Tazmyn Ozga shares her personal journey of navigating a mono-poly marriage, offering insights into both the struggles and successes. The book provides best practices and guidance for building healthy, understanding relationships across differing needs. Amazon Link

 

Sex and Sexual Health

• Come As You Are: Emily Nagoski unpacks the science of women’s sexuality, showing how stress, mood, and body image shape sexual wellbeing. With updated research, she empowers readers to embrace pleasure, confidence, and authenticity in their sex lives. Amazon Link

• Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good: Adrienne Maree Brown reframes activism through the lens of joy, showing how pleasure can fuel justice work. Drawing on Black feminist traditions and diverse voices, she offers tools to connect politics, healing, and desire in liberatory ways. Amazon Link

• Freeing Sexuality: Amara Charles gathers interviews with 20 experts—from psychologists to sex workers—on topics like trauma, non-monogamy, and intimacy. The book highlights diverse perspectives while challenging stigma and affirming sexuality as a force for healing and fulfillment. Amazon Link

• Are You Having Sex or is Sex Having You? - Listen Here

• Dr. Dacker’s TED Talk on the STARS approach to the safe sex conversation Watch Here

• Getting Real about Sexual Health - Listen Here

• Thinking Critically about Sex Positivity and Sex Negativity - Listen Here

• Safer Sex Part 1 - Listen Here

• Safer Sex Part 2 - Listen Here

• Sex Education with Sam Catt - Listen Here

• Building Consent Culture - Listen Here

• Solving Sexual Incompatibility - Listen Here

 
Designing Your Relationships

• Designer Relationships: Patricia Johnson and Mark A. Michaels introduce “designer relationships,” encouraging people to intentionally shape connections that fit their needs. Drawing on decades of research, they offer tools for creating flexible, adaptive partnerships across monogamy, polyamory, and open relationships. Amazon Link

• Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Amy Gahran challenges the traditional path of relationships by showcasing alternatives like consensual nonmonogamy, solo polyamory, and relationship anarchy. Based on stories from over 1,500 people, the book empowers readers to design intimacy on their own terms. Bookshop Link

• Sex from Scratch: Sarah Mirk offers practical advice and real stories from people in nontraditional relationships, encouraging readers to break free from standard dating scripts. With humor and insight, the book helps individuals craft connections that reflect their own desires and lifestyles. Bookshop Link

 
Coming Out as Non-Monogamous

• To Come Out or Not to Come Out: Podcast Episode - Listen Here

• The Episode to Share With Your Parents Podcast Episode - Listen Here

• Non-Monogamy in the Workplace Podcast Episode - Listen Here

• Should You Come Out of the Closet? Podcast Episode - Listen Here

• Handling Backlash Podcast Episode - Listen Here

• Opening up About Your Non-Monogamous Relationship in the Workplace Brochure - Read Here

• Creating a Safe and Inclusive Workplace for Employees in Stigmatized Family and Relationship Structures Brochure - Read Here

• It’s Called “Polyamory”: Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles provide a roadmap for navigating nonmonogamy in a monogamous world, blending personal stories with community research. They break down structures, clarify terminology, and explore intersections like race, gender, and parenting to foster understanding and acceptance. Amazon Link

 
Legal Rights

• Polyamorous Legal Rights: The Fight for Equality with Diana Adams Esq. and Dr. Heath Schechinger Podcast Episode - Listen Here

• Out and Empowered: Protections and Visibility for Non-Monogamy - Listen Here

• Legal Protections for Polyamorous Families - Listen Here

 
Nonmonogamy and Deathcare

• Non-Monogamy and Deathcare: An end-of-life resource for the non-monogamy community - Read Here

Identities and Intersections

LGBTQIA+ Intersectionality 

• Polyamory as Liberation: Radical Love for Multiply Marginalized Queer Folx - Read Blog Here

• BIPOC and Queer Experiences in Polyamory: Why Inclusive Therapy Matters - Read Blog Here

• Polyamory and the Trans Experience Podcast: Exploring the intersection of polyamory and transgender experiences. - Listen Here

• Queer Theology Podcast: Discussions blending theology with LGBTQIA+ and polyamorous perspectives. - Listen Here

• Chosen Family - Listen Here

• Frank Smith Gets Real about Queer Polyamory - Listen Here

• Visibility and Worthiness - Listen Here

 
Non-Monogamy and Race

• Intersectionality and Polyamory - Listen Here

• Privilege and Polyamory - Listen Here

• Poly Storytelling and Diversity - Listen Here

• Black Poly Pride - Listen Here

• Love’s Not Color Blind: Kevin A. Patterson examines racism in polyamorous communities, highlighting the shaming, fetishization, and erasure faced by people of color. Blending research and personal stories, he offers a framework for confronting bias and building more inclusive, equitable spaces. Amazon Link

 
Neurodiverse Non-Monogamy

• A Neurodivergent Guide to Non‑Monogamy That Works - Read Blog Here

• Neurodiversity and the Benefits and Challenges of Non-Monogamy - Listen Here

• Polyamory and Neurodivergence with Alyssa Gonzalez Pt. 1 - Listen Here

• Non-Monogamy and Neurodiversity: This book explores how neurodivergence shapes nonmonogamous relationships, addressing both challenges and strengths. It offers strategies for partners to navigate differences with care, making polyamory more accessible and affirming for neurodivergent people. Amazon Link

 
Non-Monogamous Youth 

• “It’s Not the Relationship Style, It’s the Stigma”: Why Non-Monogamous Youth Need Our Support Now - Read Blog Here

Parenting

• "THE POLY FAMILY: Influences of Polyamorous Parental Upbringing on Adolescent Attachment Style" (2024) - Access Study Here

• Polyamory and Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy with Children: Written by Jessica and Joseph Daylover, this book combines personal stories with practical strategies for raising children in polyamorous families. It tackles issues like hierarchy and couple’s privilege while offering journaling prompts and tools to help parents set boundaries and create supportive family structures. Amazon Link

• Monogamy? In this Economy?: Laura Boyle draws on over 400 interviews to offer practical guidance for polyamorous families, focusing on parenting, finances, and household logistics. Moving beyond jealousy and relationship basics, she provides tools to help partners, queer and non-queer, build sustainable, harmonious long-term arrangements. Amazon Link

• Abolish the Family: A Manifesto for Care and Liberation: Feminist critic Sophie Lewis critiques the burdens of traditional family structures and calls for their abolition as a path to more just and caring communities. Tracing the lineage of family abolition from socialists to queer Marxists, she urges readers to imagine new ways of organizing love and care beyond conventional roles. Amazon Link

• What It's Really Like to Be a Polyamorous Parent Podcast: Experiences from polyamorous parents. - Listen Here

• Family and Children with Eli Sheff Podcast: Insights from an expert in polyamorous parenting. - Listen Here

• Legal Protections for Polyamorous Families Podcast - Listen Here

• Kids, Consent, and Sex Education - Listen Here

• Polyamory Parenting Magazine: This digital platform, led by queer non-binary intersectional feminist Shawna, offers resources and support for non-monogamous caregivers. Centering representation and inclusivity, the magazine provides articles, guides, and community-driven content to help polyamorous families navigate the challenges and joys of parenting outside traditional models. Link

• What It’s Really Like to Be a Polyamorous Parent with Jessica Daylover Podcast: Insights into polyamorous parenting experiences. - Listen Here

 
Relationship Anarchy

• What the Heck is a Relationship Anarchist? Insights from “The Short Instructional Manifesto for Relationship Anarchy - Read Blog Here

• Relationship Anarchy 101 - Listen Here

• How to Put RA Principles into Practice - Listen Here

• Monogamy and Relationship Anarchy - Listen Here

• Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord - Listen Here

• Results from the First Research Study on Relationship Anarchy - Read Blog Here

• Relationship Anarchy: Occupy Intimacy: This book presents relationship anarchy as a radical framework for building sustainable, nontraditional connections through deep communication and intentional commitments. Blending personal insight with political analysis, it traces the history and philosophy of RA while critiquing compulsory monogamy, encouraging readers to reimagine intimacy, care, and community beyond conventional models. Amazon Link

• Expansive Love: A Practical Guide to Relationship Anarchy: This guide explores the philosophy and practice of relationship anarchy, centering the value of diverse connections beyond romance. Combining history, practical tools, and cultural insights, it helps readers cultivate fulfilling, non-normative relationships and build inclusive communities grounded in freedom and care. Amazon Link

 
Solo Polyamory

• Is Solo Polyamory Right for You? - Listen Here

• Solo Polyamory with Tristan Taormino - Listen Here

• The Relationship Escalator and Solo Polyamory - Listen Here

• Solo Polyamory - Listen Here

• Solo-polyamory as a journey of self-discovery - Read Here 

 
Community and Culture

Novels and Memoirs

• Open: An Uncensored Memoir: In this memoir, journalist Rachel Krantz shares her journey into an open relationship, navigating intimacy, independence, and power dynamics in polyamory. Blending personal stories with insights from experts, she offers an unflinching look at love, desire, and the complexities of nontraditional relationships. Amazon Link

• Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home: In this collection, Alex Alberto reflects on a decade of living polyamory through essays, plays, and love letters. Exploring jealousy, cultural identity, and the blurred lines of friendship and romance, Alberto reimagines family and celebrates the transformative possibilities of love beyond convention. Bookshop Link

• More: A Memoir of Open Marriage: Molly Roden Winter shares her candid journey into open marriage, sparked by an unexpected connection during motherhood. Through passionate encounters and raw self-discovery, she and her husband Stewart navigate jealousy, shifting rules, and deep emotional truths, ultimately redefining love, commitment, and fulfillment on their own terms. Bookshop Link

• Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love: In this graphic memoir, Sophie shares her bold departure from traditional relationship models to embrace polyamory. Through reflections on sexuality, online dating, jealousy, and the power of female friendships, she offers a witty and insightful account of discovering that love can thrive in many forms and connections beyond convention. Bookshop Link

• The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families: In this groundbreaking work, Dr. Elisabeth Sheff explores the realities of polyamorous families, blending research with vivid storytelling to reveal how people build and sustain households with multiple partners. Highlighting daily challenges, relational dynamics, and societal perceptions, Sheff provides essential insights for professionals, educators, and readers curious about the complexities and resilience of polyamorous communities. Bookshop Link

• Love Trinity on the Open Road: Childhood friends Emily, Grace, and Eli take a road trip to the Grand Canyon before college, where Emily discovers feelings for both friends. Their journey sparks questions about love, identity, and the future of their bond. Amazon Link

• Blog: On all things Polyamory - Read Here

• Blog: Polyamory in the News - A blog by Alan MacRobert with an archive of media related to polyamory. - Read Here

• Meg-John & Justin - An ENM-inclusive website with podcast episodes, zines, blog-posts, and videos sex and relationship advice, ideas, and education.

• Asking for What You Want - A website with resources about polyamory, sexual communication, relationships, & women’s empowerment by sex educator, Marcia Baczinski.

• Sex-Positive Psych - A website with resources by Dr. Liz Powell, author of Building Open Relationships.

• Conscious Polyamory - A blog about polyamory emphasizing loving relationships, personal growth, and conscious evolution by Morgaine and Art (a.k.a. Wide Guy).

• Off the Relationship Escalator - A blog and website with resources related to solo polyamory by author Amy Gahran (Aggie Sez).

• Kimchi Cuddles - A website with ENM comics by Tikva Wolf.

• I’m Poly and So Can You - An advice column and ENM resources site by sex educator Andre Shakti.

• What is Compersion -  A site with research and resources regarding compersion, a term often described as the opposite of jealousy and possessiveness.

• Polyamory Today - A publication focusing on personal experiences with exploring polyamory and ethical non-monogamy in modern times. They seek to “explore what it means to be polyamorous in today’s world, provide resources for polyamorous people and those interested in the potential this type of relationship can provide, and foster discussion about relationship success.”

 
Non-Monogamous Organizations

• APA Division 44 Committee on Consensual Non-Monogamy: An organization dedicated to research, resources, and advocacy for consensual non-monogamous relationships.

• Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition: Advocates for the rights and recognition of polyamorous families.

• National Coalition of Sexual Freedom: Working to create political and legal environments that support alternative sexual and relationship practices.

• Loving More: A nonprofit focused on the support and education of polyamory issues, sponsoring conferences and advocacy.

• Polyamory Society: Promoting multi-partner relationships and offering resources for support and education.

• OPEN's Peer Support Circles - Access Peer Support Here

 Podcasts

• Polyamory Weekly: A podcast covering various aspects of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. - Listen Here

• Multiamory: Offers insights into conscious polyamory and related topics. - Listen Here

• Life on the Swingset: A podcast exploring swinging, polyamory, and open relationships. - Listen Here

• Loving Without Boundaries: Interviews and insights on polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. - Listen Here

• Sex Gets Real: Discusses sexuality, relationships, and personal experiences. - Listen Here

• Pedestrian Polyamory: A show about polyamory and all of its glorious (and not so glorious) features by Shira B. Katz and Gavin Katz. - Listen Here

Dating Websites

• Feeld: An ENM and kink-friendly dating website tailored for various relationship types. - Visit Feeld

• #Open: A dating app designed for the polyamorous, consensual non-monogamous, and open relationships communities, featuring virtual and in-real-life events. - Visit #Open

• OKCupid: While not exclusively for non-monogamous relationships, it allows users to specify and find others interested in polyamory and open relationships. - Visit OKCupid

• BiCupid: A dating site for bisexual individuals, seeking connections for threesomes, swinging, and polyamorous relationships. - Visit BiCupid

• MoreThanOne: Tailored for polyamorous individuals, offering features that support both single and partnered users. - Visit MoreThanOne

• PolyFinda: Designed by the polyamorous community, encouraging users to clearly define what they're looking for in relationships. - Visit PolyFinda

• Downdating: A hookup-focused dating app, allowing users to specify their interests. - Visit Downdating

• PolyMatchmaker: A dating website specifically for people engaged in polyamory. - Visit PolyMatchmaker
  
  Therapist Resources

• Find a Polyamorous-Friendly Therapist or Other Professional - Access Directory

•  Kink and Polyamory Aware Professionals (KAP) Directory - Access Directory 

• Polycules in the Therapy Room: Skills for Supporting Complex Relationship Networks - Read Blog Here

• The Five Pillars of Trauma-Informed Care in Non-Monogamy - Read Blog Here

• Making Therapy Safer for Non-Monogamous Clients: A Comprehensive Guide to Inclusive Practice - Read Blog Here

• Is It the Relationship Structure or the Relationship Skills? Challenging the Monogamy-Superiority Myth - Read Blog Here

• How to Vet a Non-Monogamous Affirming Therapist: A Guide for Polyamorous and Open Clients - Read Blog Here

• How Therapists Can Help Non-Monogamous Relationships Thrive - Read Article

• Overview of Consensual Non-monogamy by Dr. Margie Nichols - Training Available Here

• Normalizing Non-Monogamy Community Workshops - Access Here

• A Therapist’s Guide to Consensual Nonmonogamy offers clinicians practical tools and case studies for supporting CNM clients. It addresses common challenges like jealousy, time management, and family dynamics, making it a core resource for affirming, effective care. Amazon Link

• The Handbook of Consensual Non-Monogamy: A comprehensive, evidence-based guide for clinicians that explores CNM through an intersectional lens. Featuring contributions from leading experts, it offers practical tools for delivering ethical, affirming care to diverse CNM clients. Amazon Link

• Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients): Martha Kauppi offers clinicians practical tools and strategies for supporting polyamorous clients. The guide combines myth-busting insights with interventions to navigate complex dynamics while avoiding cultural bias. Link